Have you ever seen signs that read something like this:

I have. Every time I do, I chuckle.
Who is DUMB enough to do that? Obviously somebody… enough somebodies that they’ve made signs, anyway. I’ve lived around the same roads all my life (except the three years I spent getting a two-year music degree [don’t judge until you’ve been there. Rough stuff.]) and driving over them is like rereading a favorite poetry passage. It’s nearly effortless.

Yesterday, I drove one of those roads. Presently, it’s in the thick of construction. I’ve driven it before, as I said above. I’ve even driven it when it’s been in the thick of construction; YEA I have driven it many, many times in it’s PRESENT state of construction.
But yesterday.
Was different.

I was in a state of frantic nervousness. I was fairly WROUGHT with AGITATION! And now that I’ve run the risk of sounding like a character from Green Gables, I’ll get straight to the point: I was on my way to ask businesses for donations to Austin’s Auction.

I want to help, you know.
But I want to ask for donations as much as I want to shoot myself in the foot.

Luckily, the night before I’d gotten a phone call from my aunt who told me she had woken up in the middle of the night before and felt impressed to collect donations for the auction. The Lord was on a mission to get donations collected. Alicia, He understood, was not getting it done.
Aunt Trina, He knew, would.

I’m terrible embarrassed about it. More than ANYTHING, I want the Lord to know He can count on me for anything that needs doing. And here I was, driving down the road, fully knowing what I was about to do.
I was about to go into business doors and ask them for a donation.
BUT BEFORE I COULD, I apparently needed to follow a construction tractor down his work path.

The signs? Not so funny anymore. I can almost hear my mother reading the words to me: Now remember, darling… we DON’T follow the big ugly tractors with ADOT men in them. Right? What did we learn today?

But I did it. Did I do it well? Of course not. I bumbled into one restaurant and only had the heart to ask to hang a flyer in the window. By the time I was done, or had done as much as my nerves could stomach (I had my two kiddos with me), I took all three of us to McDonalds. After a short lunch, I drove home and kept TRUE to MY course and not the course of the construction workers.
I stopped to get gas, still rife with agitation.

And a few minutes later, I was walking a small strip of the main road, hunting for my gas cap.

Yes, in my state, I had forgotten to put the gas cap on -something I’m usually extra vigilant about.

Thank goodness for Aunt Trina. Thank goodness for Heavenly Father’s absolute passion for variety. For you and I are not the same.
We’re here to bolster each other… how does the saying go?

Thee lift me, and I’ll lift thee and we’ll all ascend together.

You can listen to this song while you read my post today. There’s a HUGE clarinet solo opening. The lyrics pay homage to it before coming out to play.

In any case, hello.

I have a phase I go through now and then. I turn into a sort of sponge that soaks up education, and I spend every spare minute (yea, even second) reading and learning and (apologies to those who happen to bump into me) sharing.

I get absolutely sloshed on Wikipedia.
About a month ago, I found an out-of-print book by Paul Harvey. It was $1 (maybe less?) at a yard sale. I bought it and gave it to Dad. I looked through it the other day, and I wrote down the names of three men he briefly discusses in a holiday article he titled “The ‘Other’ Three Wise Men.”
It was published on Christmas Eve in a Kentucky Newspaper. It’s title is different, but if you click
HERE
you can read it. You can also see the prices of candy bars in mid-70’s.

I look forward to curling up at night with my 12 episode documentary on US History. I’m only on episode 6. I still have WWWII to look forward to! If you know me, you know that WW2 (pronounced dubb-ul-yuh-dubb-ul-yuh 2) is my absolute favorite war.
My iPod is my constant companion in these phases. For music? Hardly. For podcasts? Most definitely. I feast on speeches, and yesterday I did almost every dish in my house (because almost every dish in my house was dirty) while I listened to a man quote Brigham Young for almost an hour.
Have you ever listened to Brigham Young quotes? LDS or not, you’d love it. Unless you hate common sense.

And I must say: my husband is right there with me (podcasts excepting).
Have we become one of “those” couples who gets giddy about hot chocolate, a blanket, and a good documentary? Well, no. We haven’t become.
We always have been; although, I prefer the historic type and he prefers the predator/prey type.
We can usually find common ground in the Egyptian area. Mummies, curses, buried gold…

Enjoy today, friend.
There’s definitely a reason to -whether it’s because there’s something good in store or simply because you’re NOT lying on a filthy gurney getting your severed arm completely amputated.
We just finished the Civil War episode…

Friday night, I was blessed to attend a leadership training meeting. Elaine S. Dalton was there.

(image from lds.org)

As she was being introduced, a story was told. Elaine is the mother of 6 children. After the last of these were born, she was given a pair of running shoes for Mother’s Day. It was told that she came to really love running, and she has successfully completed 7 marathons. I can’t remember the quote exactly, but she was quoted to have said something along the lines of how fulfilling it was to teach her body how to mind.

Don’t you just love that? Incidentally, that morning -FRIDAY morning -I had taken the opportunity to get dressed and head outside for a walk. I jogged the last part of my walk.
This is monumental for one reason:
I haven’t worked out in ages.

After the birth of by first born, I worked out religiously. Hardly a day went by that I wasn’t at my Pilates, stretching. My muscles were strong. My stomach was gradually trimming. And -wonder of wonders! -I could actually touch my toes: a regular feat for a girl with long long legs.
As time went by and another pregnancy came and went, I found my workouts lagging. It was hard to workout with a crying infant in one room and a toddler koloa attached to the leg you’re trying to lift, lift, lift.
I tried, though. I can say for absolute certain that I didn’t give it my BEST, but I did try.
Life went on, as life does, and mountains were thrown in my little life path. In order to get around the mountains, I had to go through several stages. They went something like this.
1) Cry, give up any and all ideas of trying to make good choices as concerns my health (I might as well title this stage “Ice Cream”)
2) Stay in Bed
3) Get Angry
4) Refuse to deal with the situation at hand and turn to unlimited movie streaming instead
5) Cry (Ice Cream)
6) Whine
7) Realization that I’ve become someone I don’t care much for (see “whine” above)
8) Stop crying
9) Put big girl pants on
10) Face the world
11) Resume working out

Each step took about a month, by the way.
The point is: when I was at step 1, I was basically unwilling to bother with anything like working out. Would it have made a good difference? Of course it would have. But did I want to get out of bed? Of course I didn’t.
So I didn’t.

But Friday, I did. And after listening to Sister Dalton’s resolve to make her body mind, I thought how gratifying it would be. And so I rinsed and repeated my walk/jog on Saturday. Today, I did the same thing.
It hurts, you know, to be so out of shape. I’ve spent the entire YEAR out of shape.
It hurts in a good way, though.
And it feels even better to get out of bed, even if I don’t want to.
It feels even BETTER to tell my body that though it wants sleep, and though it wants PJ’s -it will NOT have them. I believe the term “over my dead body” would apply here.

In relation to all of this garb, I gave my son orange juice.
He ran a fever on Saturday. By Saturday night, he was crying when he had to swallow and complaining that the back of his mouth was “hot.” His fever broke during the night, but he’s still complaining about his mouth. It isn’t his throat, mind you… it’s his MOUTH. Hand, foot and mouth has been going around and I do believe my son has caught it. He’s taking it well, thank goodness.
Sunday night, I thought he might be feeling better. He asked for some orange juice.
I told him no. It would probably hurt his mouth.
He insisted.
I told him no.
He insisted.
I told him no.
This went on for QUITE some time, and those of you who know my son know that his STUBBORNNESS is one of his Primary traits. I want to foster it to a point because I believe stubborn people are often the kind that GET IT DONE… so I did what any bad parent would do.
I gave him the orange juice.

He wanted it, didn’t he?
He asked for it, didn’t he?

I gave him approximately 2 ounces of juice. He threw it back and immediately his face contorted… his eyes turned on me and he gave me a look of absolute PAIN and BETRAYAL. With a pained war-cry, he threw his empty paper cup at my feet and yelled at me.
“IT HOT!” He cried, tears streaming down his face, “YOU HURT ME!”
“But you wanted it,” I said, trying to hold him, “You asked for it.”
By then my husband came in the room. I explained to him what had happened.
“And you GAVE it to him?” He asked, incredulously.
“Well, he wanted it.  He asked for it” I repeated, starting to sound like a bad pop chorus.
“Alicia,” my husband spoke to me very slowly, “You don’t give him something that is going to hurt him.”

He said it sarcastically, of course.
I wanted to laugh, but the life lesson his sentence gave was too valuable to laugh at. Of course he wasn’t trying to be mean. He was just trying to make me laugh -lighten up on myself.

But how many times have I hurt myself on account of what I want?
I don’t want to get out of bed; consequently, my health has suffered for almost a year.
I don’t want to eat salad; consequently, I’ve robbed my body of vital nutrition.

What got me out of bed this morning?
The idea of treating myself with more respect.
What did I get in return?

Sunrise.
Renewal.
Fresh air.
Twenty minutes of pod cast streaming.
Twenty minutes to myself.
Twenty minutes to breath.
And, oh yeah: Sunrise.

Here’s to respecting yourself today.

Here’s to respecting yourself enough to make your body mind.

Young girls, beware.

Someday you will grow up and enter the dating world. The young men who come into your life will have a variety of names. I plead with you to only date those who have names you would never consider for a future child. So many of us are suffering the regret of having dated a young man with a wonderful name… a name we have placed a self-imposed ban on if not for our own sake than for the sake of our husbands.

I mean, really. If my husband had named our daughter after one of his lady friends, I would be, in the very least, disgruntled.

I wish I would have known when I was 16 that I would spend the majority of my life in a mild state of obsession over a man named Benjamin Franklin. When I was 16, I dated a Ben.
I would give anything to name a future son Ben, but my husband has other ideas (see “disgruntled” above).

Last year, my Aunt Ruth and I had the opportunity to visit. I don’t recall ever having had a visit with JUST Aunt Ruth ever before. Her and I sat on my Aunt Julie’s bed, leafing through a three-ring binder she had complied. It was full of family history: pictures, stories, charts…
We talked about our ancestors. We talked about teaching. We talked about marriage.
And then she told me something that changed my life forever.

I am a direct descendant of Benjamin Franklin’s sister.
DO YOU KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS?!?!
He is, in very fact, my Uncle Ben a million times removed… all the more reason to use his name for one of my future sons.
In any case, I was doing some research yesterday. I came across Benjamin Franklin’s 13 virtues.

(image via lexrex.com)

Temperance: Eat not to dullness; drink not to elevation
Silence: Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself; avoid trifling conversations
Order: Let all your things have their places; let each part of your business have its time
Resolution: Resolve to perform what you ought; perform without fail what you resolve
Frugality: Make no expense but to do good to others or yourself; that is, waste nothing
Industry: Lose not time; be always employed in something useful; cut off all unnecessary actions
Sincerity: Use no hurtful deceit; think innocently and justly; speak accordingly
Justice: Wrong none by doing injuries or omitting the benefits that are your duty
Moderation: Avoid extremes; forbear resenting injuries so much as you think you deserve
Cleanliness: Tolerate no uncleanliness in body, clothes or habitation
Tranquility: Be not disturbed at trifles or accidents common or unavoidable
Chastity: Rarely use venery but for health or offspring; never to dullness, weakness, or the injury of your own or another’s peace or reputation
Humility: Imitate Jesus and Socrates

You can bet I’m printing several copies of his list out. I’ll put them on my fridge, on my bathroom mirror, in my scriptures, in my church binder, and in my car -forever reminders to do better.
His words next to humility (imitate Jesus and Socrates) sent me on yet another search.

Do you know who Socrates is? I didn’t. I mean, I knew OF Socrates, but I didn’t know ABOUT Socrates. He is quoted as saying “I know I know nothing.” He was heralded as the wise man -yea, even the WISEST. He denied it, insisting he had no wisdom. That simple fact alone -the fact that he was aware of his own ignorance -made him undoubtedly the wisest man.
He challenged men with questions, and by so doing humiliated a few publicly. It didn’t earn him any friends, and eventually he was condemned to die (by drinking poison).
He had a chance to escape prison, but he insisted on staying for several reasons:

(Thanks be to Wikipedia)
Xenophon and Plato agree that Socrates had an opportunity to escape, as his followers were able to bribe the prison guards. He chose to stay for several reasons:
1)He believed such a flight would indicate a fear of death, which he believed no true philosopher has.
2)If he fled Athens his teaching would fare no better in another country as he would continue questioning all he met and undoubtedly incur their displeasure.
3)Having knowingly agreed to live under the city’s laws, he implicitly subjected himself to the possibility of being accused of crimes by its citizens and judged guilty by its jury. To do otherwise would have caused him to break his “social contract” with the state, and so harm the state, an act contrary to Socratic principle.

Also: he felt like it was his time to die -that it might be better to die than live.
Isn’t his logic sound and wonderful and a little mind blowing?! I mean, given the chance to escape death, what would you do? Thank goodness Socrates wasn’t the star of “Prison Break” or the series would have been over in a few short episodes, and the public would be disgruntled.

Maybe I should have titled this post “disgruntled.”

Really I just wanted you to have Ben Franklin’s 13 virtues, and I wanted a little sympathy on the “you-can’t-name-your-son-Ben” front. That said, ciao.

(image via ryanflemingmakes.blogspot.com)

Last week, I attended Enrichment. The guest speaker did such a great job that her words have stayed with me, and they keep coming to mind every day.
She started her talk off by asking the question, “Do you ever lie down to bed and ask yourself why you’ve been so blessed to live where you do, in the country that you do?”
I nodded my head, yes! Yes! I have! In fact, I’ve lost sleep wondering WHY I’ve been so blessed. Have I ever come up with an answer? No. Maybe she had it! I wriggled to the edge of my seat and waited.

Instead of outright answering the question, she asked us what the answer was. People tossed out answers that didn’t really get to the root of the question: WHY am I so blessed? Of course we ARE blessed to live when/where we do, but WHY?

We finally came to the conclusion that, among other reasons, it is to bless others -the world through, if needs be.

This answer satisfies me to some extent. Does it satisfy you? And are you losing sleep because your life is so good and you can’t, for the life you, figure out why?
Surely I don’t deserve it, so why have I been handed it?

Here’s a brief rundown, I was born in 1985 to two devoted parents. They had been sealed to each other in the Temple before any children came along, making all six of us (children, that is) born in the covenant. I was born sealed to my parents -immediately promised to them for ETERNITY, not just until they or I die. My mother taught me to learn with my hands. My father taught me to work with my hands. I grew on principles of faith. I attended church. My friends were good -they’re still good, and they’re still my friends. The little hospital-less town I was literally born in helped to raise me. Without the boundaries of asphalt and fences, my imagination roamed, grew, and blossomed. I began voraciously reading and voraciously writing. I was given the opportunity to play basketball, volleyball, and softball. My coaches taught me about sacrifice, about the importance of a unified group and the difference between the power of a unified group and the power of an individual. I was able to learn musical instruments, and again was taught the importance of unification.
When a group is not in tune, it’s nothing short of harsh. And no one wants to listen to them.

I ran for class offices. I applied for Societies and Clubs. I typed. I laughed. I cried. And then, I graduated.

At graduation, my devoted parents stood by as I helped deliver our Class History Speech. They were together, as they’d always been. They were healthy, as were my brothers and sister.
And went off to college with everything I had learned burning a hole in the back pocket of my 28″ waist, 36″ long jeans.

I could have done well with just that. But well enough? Not nearly.

Of all the blessings great and small that I was simply BORN into, the greatest of all of these began before I came to earth, and it came to my family line when a young missionary touched (and thereby healed) the wounded leg of my great-great-great grandfather. Jens Hansen accepted the gospel of Jesus Christ. His son settled the area I was raised in. Eventually, my father came along and married my mother.
That’s when I was born into a life of privilege. As I attended church and was taught the basic principles of the gospel of Jesus Christ, I would start to think -to ponder.
I always was something of a thinker, even as a small child.
One Sunday, as I listened to a speaker testify of Christ, it suddenly stuck my mind that he might be full of absolute bull. I looked in desperation at my mother.
Were we being duped into believing something absolutely ridiculous? Were we? And what was I going to do about it? I became momentarily convinced that I was trapped in a church pew, in a dress, having a fantastical religion shoved on me.
Luckily, I was small when this happened. I was small enough to be able to turn around in the my church pew, sit on my knees, and peak around at the congregation that was being likewise duped.
My eyes landed on Paul Hatch. He lived just down the hill from us, and I knew -without a doubt -that no one could ever dupe Paul Hatch.
I turned back around and thought about it.
I glanced past my mother and looked at my father. My father was the smartest person in the world. Surely, he wouldn’t go to church if there wasn’t something real about it.

And so, for that moment, I was satisfied.
My testimony relied on others, but for the moment, it sufficed. As I grew older, I gained bits of testimony for myself, but the root of my testimony and the countless blessings that have flowed into my life because of it came because of how I was born and the way that I was raised.

My children are healthy (and jumping off of my piano bench).
There is a roof over my head.
There is food in my pantry.
There is money in my account.
There are clothes flowing out of my closet.
I’m free to do as I like.
I’m a voter.
I’m a mother.
I’m a wife.
I’m warm despite the biting cold outside.
I am loved by my Heavenly Father who speaks to me because He loves me and I’m getting to know Him.

WHY?

What have I done to merit these blessings?
In truth: I don’t know exactly. Do you?

I recently read an article that was meant to be humorous about why skipping Thanksgiving was an all right idea. Thanksgiving wasn’t exciting enough.
Birthdays, the author reasoned, and Christmas had far more to offer by the way of celebration.

I laugh easily. I don’t offend easily.
But this is one instance where I will not lighten up or take a joke where a joke is meant to be taken.

Be thankful. Be less wanting.
Express it how you will, but be sure you do.

You don’t need the audience of 600 facebook friends to express how grateful you are for cell phones, running water, toilets, clothing, food, children, health, sleep, joy, laughter, Netflix…
All you need is the audience of One.

Kneel.

I’m smack dab in the middle of an experiment.  And NO, despite the amount of candy wrappers surrounding me at present, it isn’t “How Many Days Before the Leftover Halloween Candy is Gone?”
It’s more of a relationship experiment.

Before I go on, you need to know that you’re about to judge me… pretty harshly. Wait, unless you’re Dr. Laura. I think Dr. Laura might not judge me. Maybe.

I was driving home from Wal-Mart last week, and a song came on the radio. We have a total of about 7 stations up here, and 4 of them play country. I listen to country virtually non-stop, so this works out well for me. I can flip through the country stations until I find something I DO like (Josh Turner) and avoid what I don’t (Rascal Flatts). As I drove along, a song I had never heard came on. I can’t find an official music video for it. This was the best I could find.

As I listened to it, I was reminded of how simple men can be. NOW, this is by no means an insult. I just forget sometimes that my husband has very few needs -the most of these is just to be loved and appreciated. I thought about my son. I thought about how I want his hypothetical future wife to treat him. I thought about my husband’s mother, and I thought about how hard it must be to trust another woman with her treasure of a boy… the way she pins her hopes on that woman to see the person she sees.
And then I went back to thinking about the song.

Now, please understand that what I’m about to say is going to sound downright incriminating.

I decided to take the song to heart, and in certain situations I have -in all seriousness -wondered how a dog would react.
And then I act accordingly.
This isn’t to say that I’m slobbering all over him and assuming animal-like attributes. This is just to say that I’m trying MUCH harder to be be MUCH happier when he comes home from work. I’m leaving him alone when he’s lounging on the bed playing games on his phone while I’m wrangling children and cooking and making phone calls (yes, all at once because I’m a Woman and we DO life like that).

Also: this doesn’t mean that I didn’t peel my socks off at the end of Halloween, plunk my feet on my husband’s lap and HAND him a bottle of lotion. And no, I didn’t ASK if he wouldn’t mind rubbing my feet (after a long day of cleaning, cooking, and making our home a nice place to be on Halloween while not feeling my best). I THANKED him beforehand for what he was about to do.

As simple as men are in their needs, they sometimes need a blunt reminder of our complex needs. They’re wonderful, men are, but I’ve yet to meet one who reads minds.

I didn’t tell anyone about my experiment because, let’s face it, it’s really sorta sad.
“You asked yourself ‘What would his dog do?’… you’re nuts.”
I even happened to read a facebook status from one of my friends that said, “If a man ever said to me ‘I want you to love me like my dog does’ I can’t promise that I wouldn’t knock the crap out of him.”

The last thing I wanted to do was broadcast my experiment to the world.
BUT.
It’s been nagging at me. I have to share it now because you need to know the results.

My husband has been a completely different person for the last week. And when I say “completely different” I mean that he has been a constant ray of sunshine.
When he came home from work two days ago, he wrapped his arms around me and lifted me CLEAN OFF the ground. I asked him why he was so happy. He told me he didn’t know. Then he set me down and said, “you’ve been happy.”

Over the summer at my retreat for women, it was pointed out to me that women are the climate controls for the home. Is it worth it to fake happiness sometimes? Well, yeah. It is. It isn’t easy, and it can’t be done ALL of the time, but it’s almost always true that fake happiness generally turns into real happiness in a matter of a few smiles.

My husband can’t fake happiness for the life of him. He can’t fake anything which is something I really love about him. Because he can’t fake happiness, I’ve been asking him (the last few months) to try a little harder to put a smile on… to please be happy when he came home from work. I’m not a nag. I didn’t harp on him. I wasn’t sharp about it and I didn’t snap at him. He even agreed with me that he needed an attitude change.
Well he got one.
RIGHT after I did.

Funny how that works, isn’t it? And what’s it like to play puppy for a week?
Oh, it’s humbling all right.
And it’s WORTH it.
Men just want love. They just want appreciation. They want you to be proud of them and they want to feel like you need them in your life.
Can you do that? Of course you can. Love the men in your life. Tell them you’re proud of them. When they walk through the door, go bonkers for them.
And watch and see the change…

My hypothesis was that if I treated him like he was the best thing since mini-Twix bars (that may be the leftover Halloween candy talking) he might treat me likewise.  And guess what?  It really does work.  It seems so simple in theory -it even seems obvious.  So why is it we forget so easily?  Even dogs don’t seem to have a problem remembering and applying it.  What’s our deal?

In any case, our home is happier now that it was 8 days ago… all thanks so dogs.  and country music. and forced foot rubs.

If you’ve read this far (bless you, if you have) please enjoy this youtube video. Music majors will enjoy it most. I laughed for a full two days about it.
What makes it even better? My very own husband played the cello for an extremely brief period in the 4th grade.  Please note there are a few swears, for which I apologize.

Before my sister left on her mission, she introduced my kiddos to the movie “Rio.” In the movie, they talk a lot about “Car-ni-vall” which is the way they pronounce “carnival” in South America. I’ve had quite a time convincing them of the English pronunciation. Just when I got the girl convinced, I turned around and my son was calling our caramel apples “car-ni-vall” apples.

I finally threw up my hands. We had carnivall apples last night. Ole.
I’ve been fighting a head cold, and I absolutely shoved it to the side yesterday. I had to make Halloween fun for my family -THAT’S what mothers do, right? RIGHT?! I cleaned the house (it was Monday, after all), made dinner in a pumpkin:

Plugged in my Scentsy to get the house smelling wonderfully fallish, and gathered my chicks to start washing green apples.

I really don’t care all that much for caramel apples. But THESE? I wait all year for them. I guess carnival apples might be the appropriate term, after all… they’re like a carnival in your mouth.
I worked hard to make sure when my husband walked through the door from work that he would have NO IDEA the amount of stress that went into making our holiday “perfect.” When mom’s not feeling good AND she’s bent on a clean house, no one is happy.
But we fooled Dad.

He made jerky (so much for the fallish Scentsy smell, eh?) while we dunked apples.
As soon as the apples were put in the fridge to set, we ate dinner and then got dressed and ready for our final Halloween celebration. Do you realize we’ve had THREE this year? My kids have been in blissdom.

She insisted on a ballerina bun. Remember how she JUST had her hair cut? Yeah. You wouldn’t believe the amount of gunk I put in her hair just to get it to stay, but she was happy!

A special thanks to Laurie for noticing the boy’s furry underpants. I’m prodigious proud of them.
We stopped off at my parent’s house across town first and worked our way back.

As a special Halloween treat, Grandpa MADE doggy-doo-doo for the kids! I even got some, and I’ll attest to his cooking skills. It isn’t just any Grandpa who will melt marshmallows and butter for his grandkids, you know.
We stopped off at great-grandpa Click’s house next.

I’m a little sad that the kids have figured out that his name is “Grandpa Click” and not “Grandpa Clack.” It was so cute to listen to them call him Gwannpa Clack.
We hit Aunt Lillian’s house next. Her house is always decorated awesome, and she gives out DRINKS for treats! My husband came away the proud owner of a Dr. Pepper. He loves Trick or Treating. Age hasn’t slowed him down one little bit.

We eventually made our way to Great-Grandma Hansen’s. She always lets her grandkids have as much as they want. Every year, I try to tell them “not so much! don’t be greedy!” and every year Grandma tells my kids not to listen to their silly mother.
This year, Lacy dug her hand DEEP into grandma’s bowl and came out with about 6 mini candy bars in one tiny fist.
“Isn’t that fun?” Grandma gushed.
She’s everything a grandma should be. Have I ever told you that? I love my grandma.
Across the street is Aunt Cat’s house. My great-grandma used to live there and hand out traditional popcorn balls to trick-or-treaters. Someone on facebook recently posted her popcorn ball recipe, and I’m so glad! I’m going to write it down and try it out.

Once home, I pulled the carnival apples out and dunked them in melted white chocolate and then sprinkled them in cinnamon and sugar. Then my son flipped them off.


Did I mention I’ve been waiting ALL YEAR for these apples?!

They never disappoint. As I sliced them up, the family snuggled up on the floor to watch “The Wizard of Oz.”

Don’t you love Lacy’s post-gunk hair?  She drew each character to perfection.



He looks a little more like a tin caterpillar…
And here’s Dorothy. Notice the BIG BOWS under her face? Just where they should be!

My little budding arteest.

It was a full day, and it lived up to the expectation I had for it! I really look forward to Halloween night when we all nestle up together, eat apples, and giggle at flying monkeys.

Isn’t that angle SCARY?!
Hope your Halloween was a wonderful as ours was!

I went shopping on Thursday, and I used up all of my grocery budget save about $20 which I like to keep on hand for milk runs and whatnot. The thing is: I really only bought junk and some bone-in chicken. It’s true that my list read something like this:

Green apples
Caramels for melting
White chocolate for melting

Halloween Candy

Cookies for witch hat cookies
Hershey’s kisses
Red Frosting in a can

Chocolate pudding
Nesquick

Okay, I’ll stop there. Every year during the Halloween season, we make witch hat cookies. I started doing this when it was just my man and I. As I walked around the grocery store, picking up crap here and crap there, I KNEW I should abandon this tradition this year. The last thing I needed was more junk, and the last thing I needed was to use up time making more junk.
But. I. Couldn’t. Abandon. It.
What can I say? I hate change.

Anyway, I didn’t end up making the cookies. The kids did. The girl made some for her preschool party, and both of the kids got together to make them for our family.

I also bought everything I needed to make homemade hot chocolate mix (including marshmallows) because it’s suddenly cold, and during the cold seasons we must have hot chocolate.

Tonight, just before we trick or treat, we’re going to dunk some apples in caramel and let them sit in the fridge while we go out and gather loot. When we get home, we’re going to dunk our caramel apples in melted white chocolate, sprinkle them with cinnamon and sugar and then EAT them while we watch The Wizard of Oz.
Per tradition.

I was reading through my last few blog posts yesterday and I didn’t realize just how much I enjoy Halloween. I guess I ought to get a few decorations beyond my few fabric pumpkins that last not only through October, but November as well.

Aside from our Halloween parties, we hit up the local Halloween carnival put on by the high school. We were going to skip it, but the temptation of fun, candy, fun, and tradition was just too much for us.
Also: we got to take a long a friend.

We get to get all dressed up AGAIN tonight to go door-to-door.

Cousin Dolly was there for us with “great” JuJu to tie balloons.

What’s better than HeMan with his magical sword? HeMan with TWO magical swords.
This was the Hansen’s baby behind us in line at the fishing booth:

I couldn’t NOT take a picture of that perfect pea.

They had face painting:

And then cousins showed up:

This year they even had a pumpkin decorating booth thanks to the Solomon’s Pumpkin Patch. Their pumpkins have provided the town with pumpkins galore! The younger kids used stickers to decorate.

We stopped on our way out and bought treats from a bake sale and then we all shared big pretzels from the front counter.
I can’t believe we get to have even MORE Halloween fun tonight! Do you think the kids will let me get into their pumpkins and make dinner in a pumpkin tonight? Let’s hope so! It sounds GOOD tonight!

Happy Halloween, everyone!

PS: before I go, I have to share the picture I took of the twins I’ve posted about lately.  
They came to the carnival all snuggled up against their mom, and it was just too cute to pass up.
Also: I think I’m going to spend the better part of my day wondering WHY I took pictures of other people’s babies at the Halloween carnival…

Back in January, I escaped for a two-night stay in a Bed & Breakfast to regain my bearings and save my sanity. I wrote all about it back then. Let me see if I can find that link…

Ah, HA! HERE IT IS.

In it, I solemnly swear to myself to getaway at least once a week… to spend a little time on my own and make sure I maintain a sort of balance in my life. Guess whaaat? I finally did it. For the first time. Today. Months and months and months later. I got out of the tub, dried myself off, got dressed and then thought ‘hey. I should blow this joint.’ So I said to my husband who was lounging on the bed, “Hey. I’m going to go spend some time alone this morning, okay?”
He looked up from the computer he had been fixated on not moments before and with a look of bewilderment asked, “Are you okay?”

I told him I was.
And then I told him how important it was to keep promises to ourselves -no matter that the original promise was made in January and it is now the very end of October.

I drove out to where the highway and train noises were distant -where there were no traffic, no cars, and no little people eating their own boogers. I stopped driving when I was tucked far back in my grandpa’s land -the same place we’d gotten our pictures taken a few weeks ago.
The sunflowers? Dead.
The cornfield?

Also dead.
Thank goodness we took pictures when we did.
But there’s something about that field, isn’t there? There’s something about that land. I sat myself down on a big, flat sandstone and took it all in.
The air was perfect. It was crisp -just like autumn should be.

I prayed.
I prayed because it was silent and I could actually hear myself think.
I prayed because it felt so good to revel in silence and hear God speak.

I read a little, and then I pulled out my handy dandy black poetry book. I meant to finish a cowboy poem I’m started ages ago about a woman named Crafty Cate who dupes the handsome town player into marrying her.

I read all the way through it (which took some time. Turns out, I have a knack to go on and on and on AND ON) before realizing that I had already finished it.
And forgotten about it.

I’m awesome.

I ended my alone time with a quick trip into town where I got lost in Time Magazine’s special issue on organized crime. Did you know Bonnie of Bonnie & Clyde was 4′ 10″ and weighed 85 pounds?! She was also the straight-A daughter of a mason.
I got so wrapped up in the magazine that I didn’t notice a man standing next to me, asking me if I had noticed how quickly the year had passed.
“Yeah,” I nodded, hardly looking up from black and white snapshots of Jesse James and The Dalton Brothers (posthumous!).
“God Bless You,” he replied.
“Yeah,” I nodded, this time really not looking up at all.

I became engrossed in a section dedicated to the women married (or what have you) to the infamous men involved in historical organized crime. It was delicious.
Until the same man snuck up behind me and asked me what I wanted for Christmas.
“Nothing,” I said, “I’m completely happy.”
“God Bless You,” he replied.

This time, I looked up. I didn’t have the best feeling about the guy, and my reliable gut told me Alicia’s Alone Time was officially over.
I needed to get the heck outta there.

So I did.

I drove home, and I realized that while I absolutely love being a wife and I absolutely love watching little people eat their own boogers, I absolutely love having time to just be me.
I love to smell autumn while I crack the blank pages of my poetry book.
I love to watch small flocks of black birds fly in perfect time with each other.
I love to stare at the trees and wonder what they’ve seen that I haven’t.
I love to kick the dust and dream up catchy poems about cowboys who knit and old west widows who get a kick out of dressing incognito as saloon girls.

I am a wife.
I am a mother.

But before that, I was a leasha.
And I’ll always be Alicia.
Thank goodness for Saturday mornings when I can get away and reacquaint myself with her. Every time we get together, something wonderful comes of it -whether it’s learning about bullet-riddled crooks or scribbling lines that make us laugh… it’s worth the few hours away from my to-do list.

You should try it.

 

Before there were digital cameras, there was Sears. I remember getting dressed up that day -my sister and I were in coordinating peach dresses and sporting the beautiful turquoise bracelets that my father always made sure we had at least one of.
The boys were in matching bolo ties.
At the time, there were only 5 children. We were all positioned against the studio background and told to smile.
So we did.
The photographer was NOT pleased.
She asked me not to smile too much, so I tried.
“Even less,” she coaxed, so I tried smiling less.
“Even less,” she continued.
What you’re about to see is the results of that. In the first picture I was smiling like my regular self -you can’t see it very well, but my nose is scrunched up. The photographer didn’t like it. She didn’t believe noses SHOULD scrunch, especially not in Sears.
The second picture is me trying my hardest to smile but not scrunch.  You can almost hear a woman’s voice saying, “Even less… even less…”

See my Steve behind me? His smile was fine, I guess.
Lucky jerk.
See my Ju beside me? Wasn’t she just the most adorable little red head you’ve ever seen? I just want to pick her up and smooch her… but she’s too big now. And she’s in Utah.

ANYWAY, I bring this up for one reason only. Check this out:

When first I saw this picture, I noticed my scrunched up nose, and I cheered for the little 8 year old girl who was forced to stifle her scrunch all those years ago in Sears.
We scheduled a photography shoot with my sister-in-law a few months ago. She told us she would be up in this country for a wedding that day, so it would work out perfectly. When it came right down to it, my sister-in-law wasn’t going to be able to do both a wedding and our family pictures, so she sent my brother to take pictures for us.
My brother is awesome at whatever he does. I bet if he took up crocheting, he’d master it. No foolin’.

And thank goodness for digital cameras and professional photographers who don’t tell their clients NOT to smile. I mean, unless serious is what they’re going for:

Which we’re not very good at.
Kissing, though? Kissing is something we are VERY good at.


My brother has a polaroid camera that takes wallet-size polaroids. Isn’t it awesome?!?! I love it! Even better: I got to take two pictures home with me RIGHT away. I think I showed them to just about everyone. I’m working on making a display for them. They’re so great!
We sort of had to rush the polaroid portion of the shoot because the mosquitoes were THICK. It was insane! My brother was bravely snapping pictures while sweat beaded down his forehead and mosquitoes buzzed around his face/lens/legs/everything.
If you look at the girl’s hand in this one, you can see she’s focusing on a mosquito:

Don’t you love her big poofy dress?

We brought two outfits to take pictures in. We tried to coordinate in these:

ALL of these pictures were taken on my grandpa’s land just outside of town. We ventured down to where he keeps his silage. It was empty, obviously.

He uses the tires to hold down the tarp that covers the silage. Something in me wants to end that sentence with “in the house that Jack built” but it’s probably just because I’m crazy.
Mike gave the kids pieces of the corn stalks and told them they were swords. Look how proud the boy is of his sword:

Did I mention that he’s going to be HeMan for Halloween? The Master of the Universe!
I know I don’t say it enough, so I’ll say it.
I LOVE THIS GUY!


I’m so glad he let me have his babies (even though that isn’t exactly what I was saying while I was actually in the process of having them, but still).






Ah, Lacy.

Ahhhh, Trenton. My laid-back boy.

Everything about this picture is great except for my backside. HOWEVER, I’ve yet to meet a woman who looks at a picture of her backside after she’s had two babies and says “I love it!”

We changed into our “regoolar” clothes for a few more pictures. We took this picture by grandpa’s OLD feed truck. I told him we’d used it as a photo prop and he laughed out loud. Then he told me that when my cousin, Sam, was really little he had straight up asked Grandpa if he could have the truck when Grandpa was done with it.
MMmmmmmmmm…

MMMMMMMMMMM…

Awwwwww…

Here we are standing in front of Grandpa’s shed.

Have I ever told you that sunflowers are my very favorite?

My husband presented me with a bouquet on Saturday. They’re perched on my piana, and they really make my day every time I look at them. I think that’s why I was born on August 16th -so I could come down just as the sunflowers were coming out.

I’m sorry. Are you getting sick of pictures? I just can’t seem to get enough of them because Mike did such a good job! I love the colors and lighting and their faces:


And I love that my children are allowed to have bucket-loads of personality without someone telling them they were ruining the picture:

I am 100% happy with how our shoot went and with how our photos turned out! Brittany sent Mike with a few props (like the “Deets” banner), and we were able to use a few that we brought (like the gold frame that I snagged for $3 at a yard sale).
Mike and Brit work as a TEAM and they always do a great job.
I’ve linked up to their site before, but they’re always adding more pictures… especially lately because they have been BOOKED!
Click HERE for their main page.
Click HERE for their blog. Feel free to get lost in all of the pictures (especially the Laguna beach and Wright House pictures)!
Thanks again, Mike and Brit! We couldn’t be happier!
You guys are the best.